If this movie is not about a boy and a dragon, but instead presents the secrets to a happy, lasting marriage, then something else I learned is that we must learn their language.
If you are married to a Fire-Breathing Reptile (FBR) who is very non-verbal, rest assured that you are not alone. Part of why I am writing this for women is to help satiate our need for words!
Many husbands do not like to communicate verbally. If this is your situation too, then together we wives must learn their “sign language.” Sometimes I wish my husband was more talkative, until I talk to one of my my girlfriends whose husband will talk her ears off! Then, I am suddenly content with a bit more peace and quiet.
In, Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage, Mark Gungor talks about the four personality types like they are different nationalities. The Peaceful person, therefore comes from the country of Peace, whereas the Perfect person comes from the land of Perfect. The two countries, he says, have very different dialects. He makes a very good point.
What makes sense to us does not make sense to our husbands. And the same is true in reverse. What Mark revealed on his video series, is the “deepest need” that makes your spouse tick. If we will keep our eye on the ball, so to speak, and strive to meet that particular need for our spouse, then suddenly it is as though we are speaking his language.
The golden rule in learning their language, is don’t assume. We all know what happens when we ass-u-me, right? So, do not make the mistake that his actions mean what you think they mean. Chances are they don’t. If you are forced to assume what your spouse means, you have to, I mean have to, assume the best.
"Love always hopes" needs to be our slogan here. (There is an excellent series of devotions in Rick Renner's book, on this passage of scripture.) "Love always hopes," means that whatever your FBR’s actions are, you must choose to believe that he intends whatever is best for you. This way if you are going to err, you err on the side of righteousness.
If you are married to a Fire-Breathing Reptile (FBR) who is very non-verbal, rest assured that you are not alone. Part of why I am writing this for women is to help satiate our need for words!
Many husbands do not like to communicate verbally. If this is your situation too, then together we wives must learn their “sign language.” Sometimes I wish my husband was more talkative, until I talk to one of my my girlfriends whose husband will talk her ears off! Then, I am suddenly content with a bit more peace and quiet.
In, Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage, Mark Gungor talks about the four personality types like they are different nationalities. The Peaceful person, therefore comes from the country of Peace, whereas the Perfect person comes from the land of Perfect. The two countries, he says, have very different dialects. He makes a very good point.
What makes sense to us does not make sense to our husbands. And the same is true in reverse. What Mark revealed on his video series, is the “deepest need” that makes your spouse tick. If we will keep our eye on the ball, so to speak, and strive to meet that particular need for our spouse, then suddenly it is as though we are speaking his language.
The golden rule in learning their language, is don’t assume. We all know what happens when we ass-u-me, right? So, do not make the mistake that his actions mean what you think they mean. Chances are they don’t. If you are forced to assume what your spouse means, you have to, I mean have to, assume the best.
"Love always hopes" needs to be our slogan here. (There is an excellent series of devotions in Rick Renner's book, on this passage of scripture.) "Love always hopes," means that whatever your FBR’s actions are, you must choose to believe that he intends whatever is best for you. This way if you are going to err, you err on the side of righteousness.
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