Adjust Your Behaviour!
In the movie, we saw this over and over again. As Hiccup learned something new about Toothless he would adjust his behavior in order to present a consistent message of care, love, and acceptance.
When he brought Toothless a huge basket of fish and various fish-type items, he discovered Toothless found the eel particularly distasteful.
He did not:
- make excuses for why he brought the eel
- question why Toothless didn't like eel
- blame the dragon for not liking eel when "everybody else likes it"
- criticize Toothless for being picky, or
- accuse the dragon of being ungrateful.
Hiccup simply took the eel out of the way. That's it. Just take the eel away. And don't bring any again.
Do you know what your eel is? If you don't, ask God to reveal it to you. He is faithful to answer those types of prayers. He wants you to adjust your behaviour to bring Him glory. Good, godly marriages bring Him glory.
Have you been bringing your dragon an eel for supper? Stop. It just isn't seen as a gift, even if you perhaps intended it to be one. It is nothing personal. Your dragon just doesn't like eel.
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Hiccup continuously made adjustments with regard to the the tail contraption he built for Toothless.
He made many revisions to its design in order to get it just right. Then he made many attempts at controlling the artificial appendage in tandem and cooperation with Toothless -- even while in mid-flight.
That is a perfect picture of how marriage works: you try, and then you try again. You make mistakes, then you make revisions and try again. You work with the limitations and strengths of your partner. You make adjustments, accommodations, and more revisions to improve what is working, but could work better.
Hiccup could never fly without Toothless, and Toothless would never fly again if it were not for Hiccup.
If we want to get our marriages off the ground, we have to realize:
- We cannot do it without our partner.
- We will have to make adjustments to compensate for our partners' weaknesses.
- It will be worth it.
Readers, I know you can do it. With God's help we can "soar on eagles wings because we trust in Him." I am praying for you.
Love,
Darilyn
1 comment:
Darilyn I believe you are so right on how a marriage works and that as a spouse we can not really fly like an eagle without our partner. We might be able to fly but not to the same heights and I believe it will be worth it as you mentioned.
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